10 secrets about men you didn’t know
Did you know that men want commitment as much as women do? Or that they don’t like make-up any more that your mother does? Find more secrets about the way men think right here!
- Men want commitment, too
- Men fear rejection, too
- Men want to be the biggest, fastest, bestest ever
- Men like gutsy women
- Men don’t like make-up
- Men don’t like being changed
- Men dislike “The Spot”
- Men lie with good intentions, too
- Men are more loyal than you think
- Men are not all the same
Tell no secrets.
You’ve dropped some hints — about having babies, about how nice it would be to have a place of your own, about growing old — but he’s resolutely refrained from asking The Big Question. Finally you ask yourself: “Why is he do scared of commitment?”
Loading ...Well, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but maybe it’s just that he scared of commitment with you. Men look forward to having kids of their own and growing old with someone they love as much as women do (after a certain age, admittedly). And, like women, they want it to be with the right person. However, unlike women, men are never going to say Yes just because “because their heart tells them so”. They need more than a flutter in their stomachs to commit to anything.
Beneath their crusty, shiny exterior, men are really all softies squirming with insecurity. They are terrified of being rejected; they actually hurt more deeply than women do because of the need to keep up that ridiculous macho charade. Women that tease men will often find themselves hated by the opposite sex, because men will come to view them as “risky” — the chance of such a woman rejecting you out of pure fun is too high.
This guy obviously can't handle rejection.
”Playing hard to get,” is another ploy that men do not take kindly to. Although it may seem to you the best way of keeping him interested, all you’re really doing is showing him that you can play games with his heart. Unless you’ve starred in America’s Top Models, you may want to reconsider this strategy — most men would gladly take their chances elsewhere.
The man any decent boy dreams of being one day.
Yes, men all seem to have a fixation for the longest, biggest and fastest everything. This is because of that little boy inside every man, with his huge insecurities, just dying to Be The Best He Can Be. He wants to a super-duper-achiever, and gain recognition for it from his Mom, his girlfriend, his kids, his next-door neighbour.
When making a decision, a man will choose the the path that displays him in the most powerful light. If it’s the wrong choice, he finds himself in a pickle: being in that powerful light means he cannot show weakness – he cannot admit that he was wrong. So, he shows anger instead. It lets him mask his other emotions, and preserve the sanctity of Little Boy with the Big Problems inside. My advice is this: let him have his way. Deep down, he knows his mistake anyway.
In this age of liberated females, nothing turns a man on more than to have a woman call his mobile phone and ask him to dinner. Better yet, to have her buy him that dinner, and then take him home to her place to watch a movie she chooses.
Men are tired of always having to be the one to make the first move (and risk rejection). Men are tired of having to remember to pick their underwear up off the floor, in case they might have a visitor to bring home. A woman who takes the initiative is, to be a frank, a welcome change.
This is a guy, believe it or not.
Is Britney really that good looking? No. As a woman, you know that underneath all that make-up, she’s just another plain-old Caucasian girl with freckles and whiteheads. But why do men seem to ogle over her so? It must be the make-up.
Now, this is a little difficult to explain. Although men like looking at women that use their foundation, mascara, rouge, eye-liner and lipstick plus gloss, they don’t fancy being in the company of one. The moment they see you up close, they start analysing your make-up, searching for flaws you might be trying to hide. It detracts from your natural beauty, which is what they’re really interested in. (Hey, are you still going to have all that make-up on in the morning?).
One of men’s greatest fears is not being loved for who they are. They are terrified of being loved for who they could be, which is not quite the same. In fact, it’s an insult. You may be certain that he would look terrific in a tailored suit, but you’re never going to make him think so. And even if you do, you’ll never make him feel more comfortable in an Armani than a pair of jeans.
If you start making suggestions about the way a man should dress or behave, he will grow suspicious of you, and why you’re with him in the first place. If you fell in love with him in jeans, leave him in jeans. Changing him threatens the Little Boy. He’ll begin to wonder if he ought to get out of jeans just to keep you loving him – now, that would be a terrible pity, wouldn’t it?
What happens to a man when you put him on The Spot.
Sometimes, it’s because you catch him eyeing a woman with to-die-for legs at the mall. You ask him if he thinks the woman pretty (he says No). You ask him if you look fat (he says No). You ask him if your hair seems limp (again, he says No). You ask him several more questions, leading him to The Spot. He writhes, he squirms, but there’s no way out. Then it comes: “What can I do to make you more attracted to me?”
He could have been honest and said the woman was a real knock-out, but that would have hurt you (see #7). And you knew he was lying… else you wouldn’t have asked him all those questions. But you couldn’t it leave it at that, could you? Oh, no. You had to put him on The Spot.
Please don’t. Ever.
The “Am I fat? — No, you’re not” conundrum has been bandied around for decades without us having to go over it again. Yes, men will lie to get themselves out of a tight spot. But that’s not the only reason.
Men are sensitive to other people’s needs and wants, too. And, they will lie to make sure they don’t hurt your feelings — or anyone else’s — even if it’s at their expense. A man will not “say it to your face” if he can help it, and would rather suffer a date with the girl of his nightmares than hurt her.
The boyfriend who tried, but could not resist.
Men have a terrible reputation to live up to, when you think about it. They’re supposed to be zipper-free, virginity-conquering bigamists, with an appetite for variety and spice surpassed only by their appetite for fried chicken and football. But most of them are nothing at all like that… and not surprisingly, either.
Almost all men are loyal husbands and boyfriends. Unless you see lipstick on his collar and his belt buckle, he probably really was just having a drink with his boss after work. Men really are not as sexually charged as women think, and are more concerned about work and their career than sex.
Men don’t ALL like football, they don’t ALL enjoy farting and they don’t ALL think about sex ALL the time. In fact, men stopped being like each other — hell, they made a conscious effort to do so — several decades ago, when the first books that analysed the male psyche appeared. Since then, they’ve tried very hard to differentiate themselves from one another in a gazillion different ways. So, don’t compare them with each other, alright?
